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Coffee with Ameena #19

If we were having coffee, I would tell you for the past one week, I have not been tormented by the phone call in the middle of the night with the voice on the other end saying, the doctor on call is needed in the hospital. Yes, I am on a very short break from work, albeit a much needed one.

If we were having coffee, I’d ask if you also listen to podcasts. I’d tell you I learnt something valuable from one of my favorite’s- Jeannie Mai. She is a recent divorcee and said, it’s important to know what your expectations are, from each other. It is not enough to say “I just want to be happy”. That dawned on me hard.

If we were having coffee, I will elaborate what she meant from the previous statement. It’s not just enough to say “I just want to be happy with you“, because in order to be happy with each other, things need to be done to get to that result- “happy”; also when expectations aren’t met and things aren’t done, the opposite of happy occurs.

So, at the end of the day, in other to be happy with another individual, it is important to define what happy means for each other and for yourself.

What I mean is, you can’t expect your partner to always make you happy, it is not his job. You should be able to define happiness for yourself. And then, for example, you can say, I want a partner who would support me in my business venture and career; I want a partner I can always come home to; I want a partner who would be able to argue with me someone who is opinionated; you get the point.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you I’ve been on Aunty duty this week, with my favorite. I will tell you how from my short stay, she has fallen in love with the rhyme- rock a bye baby, she can now count from 1-5 using her fingers, and I have realised that three year olds these days know what makeup is and what goes where. I mean, when I was a kid, give me a plastic doll and I am good to go.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you it feels like the more I try not to be anxious and stressed, the more stressed I get. I will need someone to explain that logic to me because my nails are getting shorter by the minute, if you know what I mean.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you for 2020, my goal is to be a go-getter. Its not about dreaming, its about doing. I want to be active in achieving my goals, and not just survive but thrive in the best possible way. Wish me luck.

Until next time… wishing you loads of love, laughter and coffee ❀️.

What is your goal for 2020? Do share in tue comment section below 😁

6 thoughts on “Coffee with Ameena #19”

  1. “my goal is to be a go-getter. Its not about dreaming, its about doing. I want to be active in achieving my goals, and not just survive but thrive”

    For the above to have a reasonable chance of success, there are guidelines to follow as not only must you define a goal … but you have to define how you will know when it is achieved so –
    Step 1 = Define your goal
    Step 2 = Determine how it is going to be measured (if you cannot measure it, how can you achieve it?
    Step 3 = Define how long it should reasonably take to achieve it.
    Step 4 = Develop a weekly strategy that will work with Step 3.
    Step 5 = Monitor your progress against your goal and adjust if necessary.

    If you do all that, as well as tell everybody in order to create some subtle peer pressure, then I shall wish you all the best. πŸ™‚

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    1. Ah Thank you for the helpful tips. I just got a blogging accountability partner, to help me keep in check with my blogging goals. It never occurred to me about step 2, which now that I think about it, is a necessity.
      I need that kind of peer pressure and I am hoping on actually making a blog post on the goals I want to achieve next year.
      Thank you πŸ˜„

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  2. HI Ameena! I love your line about not expecting your partner to make you happy. They can ADD to your happiness for sure, but if you can’t be happy with yourself, no one else is going to make you happy !
    Your niece is adorable! I am anxiously waiting to be a Great-Aunt, my nephew’s wife is expecting.
    Good Luck to you on your goal for 2020! I see Colin laid out steps for you. He is wise like that. πŸ™‚

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    1. She really is, she lights up my world 😌. Oh wow!!!!! Congratulations Joy πŸ’ƒπŸ½πŸ’ƒπŸ½. I’m wishing them a safe delivery. I know you can’t wait to meet him.
      Colin did. And I am going to follow in those steps.

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      1. Thanks dear! Charlotte Rae was born yesterday at 4am. πŸ™‚ She is doing very well and looking adorable like babies are so good at doing! 😊β™₯️

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